So my father cheated several times of 38 years. They finally went there ways November 2017. Divorce finalized couple weeks ago. But throughout this time period, my mom has donated my dad's family china, she has thrown out pictures of him which she claims is hers not his and her choice to do whatever with (but pictures in a relationship should be both in my opinion), she gave my dad's father's who passed jewelry and purple heart to his sister who has been removed from the will because she asked to divorce the family. Who knows what else... Does my mom have the right to step over my grandma's (still alive) will and give these things away? How does the will of who that stuff get followed when the stuff is in the other person's possession. I'm in the end suppose to get the stuff so my inheritance is pretty much gone. I'm told by my half siblings I'm over reacting but I'm the only child of my father's, so I think they are just siding with my mom because it's not their dad. I'm also left without pictures of my father and grandma I don't know if they would have meant a lot to me.
I'm sorry, but this is really the saddest post I have read today. I am very sentimental about family stuff, also, and I would be completely freaked if anyone in the family gave away sentimental stuff, or heirlooms or whatever. So I don't blame you for writing. That being said, if someone is alive and owns something, yes they can give it away. But you can't give away stuff that belongs to somebody else, without their permission, or power of attorney or whatever. You can give away things that are in a will, and then when you die if the things are no longer in your possession, it's not a problem as long as you had the right to give this stuff away. What I think is that you should make an appointment with a lawyer in your area, sit down and talk over what's going on, and see if any stuff is being given away wrongfully or if your mom had the right to give it away. There are different rules depending on who owns stuff, but if your mom wants to give away everything that she owns whether it's in her will or not, she can do that. She's apparently just purging herself up stuff that reminds her of someone who disappointed her greatly. Maybe you can make a deal with her to take the rest of the stuff, if any, out of the house so she doesn't have to see it and put it in storage, or whatever. Good luck to you. I know this is a tough one.
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