Hire an attorney. Your daughter either was involved or she wasn't but confessed to it anyway. If your daughter was involved, then her involvement might substantiate what's being said about her. Truth is always an absolute defense in cases of defamation or slander. If your daughter wasn't involved, then you might want to have an attorney write the father a cease and desist letter. You also have this little matter of monetary damages for what was done to the car. Oh, and vandalism or destruction of property could be criminal, too.
The only way to sort through this mess is for you to obtain legal counsel.
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I agree with counsel that it is a good idea to have an attorney on your side.
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My colleagues are correct. You can either cut this off as early as possible before it gets out of hand, or you can ignore it and hope it blows over. Ignoring it usually makes it worse in Montgomery County, and she might wind up in civil, criminal, and school admin trouble. A competent lawyer now might help.
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