How old is she? She needs to be disciplined appropriately. As for the emails, demand their return and if necessary, file a court action to get them back. Talk to your lawyer.
I am not intending this to be legal advice, because I don't know the particulars of your situation. Call me if you would like to discuss this or other isues.
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