You will certainly have some summer vacation time and holidays. It's just a question of how much time and if you and your wife cannot agree, you will need to reach an agreement in mediation before trial or the court will decide for you after trial.
You say soon to be ex wife. When is your trial date? You state you and your wife do not agree re: the parenting plan so I take it there's gonna be a trial to resolve the dispute? What about mediation? I recommend you confer with an experienced divorce attorney in your area a.s.a.p. about all this.
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Typically, you would have more time than what your wife is thinking, plus the ability to visit if you are able to make it back to Spokane. I would start with asking for most of summer, and the three day holidays during school year, all of spring break and half of winter. Good luck. - Glenn
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