Your question is a little confusing. When you say there is a No Contact Order on us, I am assuming you mean the child and you. The No Contact Order does not apply to his communication with your family unless he is asking them to communicate with you on his behalf. You should contact the prosecutor and tell him or her you want the No Contact Order amended or dismissed. The prosecutor can make the request to the judge for you. If the prosecutor is unwilling to do so, you should hire an attorney to file a motion on your behalf.
the no contact order means that he cannot contact you either directly or indirectly. That means he cannot pass messages meant for you through third parties. I can tell you from experience that HE SHOULD NOT TRY AND CONTACT YOU. I had a client who I beat his misdemeanor battery and petty theft case but he contacted his girlfriend who he has a no contact order with shortly after first appearance, and the prosecutors charged him with FOUR COUNTS of violating the no contact order, which is a misdemeanor.
Best thing to do is to hire a lawyer to try and life the no contact order, and perhaps see if he is eligible for a bond in the VOP case and have your attorney file a motion to set bond in an affordable amount so he can bond out.