It sounds like your case is slipping through the cracks, so to speak. There are situations where counsel, for whatever reason, is not able to appear. And rather than request a continuance, the hearing maybe such that a special appearance on his/her behalf is appropriate. Judges do not like this practice, and neither to clients unless they are prepared for it (not a surprise). It sounds like you need to have a discussion with your attorney to find out what is going on. You already have a relationship with this person. S/he may not be fully aware of your concerns. Before investing another retainer on another attorney, it may be a good idea to try and talk to your attorney - put the request in writing. If that is not an option, I would suggest that you speak to someone else about your goals and concerns and try to find a process and a professional who is a better match for you and your situation.
You are correct that litigation is a frustrating process. You do have other options. It sounds like you are on a seriously nauseating roller coaster. You need to find someone who can help you get off before you vomit. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It sounds like it may be time for you take a more active role in how you move forward.
Good luck. I hope this is helpful. Feel free to give us a call - I may have some additional resources that could be helpful to you.
Since the information provided in your question is very limited and I have not had an opportunity to review all relevant facts, information, and documents, you should not rely on any specific responses to your questions. The information offered here is general in nature given that the slightest bit of additional information could change a specific answer (i.e. we separated 1 year ago and he has been paying all my expenses. Q: Do I owe him that money back? A: Yes. But what if he used money from a community asset, like a retirement account, to pay it back. A: maybe some or maybe none). In short, consult an attorney to review all relevant information so s/he can properly and accurately advise you. This free service IS NOT a substitute for legal advice and should not be considered legal advice at all.
You are 100 percent correct it is not proper and although it may be common practice to some attorney's you are the client and you deserve to understand every portion of the case. Call and scheudle a telephone or office appt to get an understanding. take care.
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