Why were you and your attorney not present? Why is your attorney not doing something? Your fact situation does not make sense to me.
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Based on what you wrote, it sounds like the court ordered therapy sessions between the father and the child. You are the mother and have a restraining order against the father. If that is all true, and there is no explicit order that you participate in the therapy sessions, then you do not have to. A therapist cannot order you to do anything, only the court can.