It can be a money pit especially if you have ineffective counsel.
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Divorce is a difficult process - both emotionally and financially. I am so sorry. Unfortunately, there is no way to estimate the cost of a family law matter because so much is dependent upon both the complexities of the matter and, to a larger extent, the personalities of the litigants. If one party is not amenable to settlement, or is not wholly honest, then having to litigate every issue will drive up your fees through no fault of counsel.
Sometimes, untrue statements are made, but the attorney has no evidence to effectively counter the statement or it may not be an appropriate time too argue the statements (ie, when the matter is not at issue). It is appropriate to ask questions of counsel so that you understand the procedural process. Discuss forms of alternative dispute resolution with your counsel. The most efficient way to keep your costs down is to settle. Good luck.
If you don't have confidence in your lawyer, you aren't bound forever to your lawyer. You can interview other experienced Family Law Attorneys and retain one to take over your representation.
Please note that this answer does not constitute legal advice, and should not be relied on, as each situation is fact specific, and it is not possible to evaluate a legal problem without a comprehensive consultation and review of all the facts and court pleadings filed in the case. This answer does not create an attorney-client relationship.
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