Going through a divorce. We filled out the initial paperwork ourselves, but now I am considering getting a lawyer to help me fill out the rest of the forms and to assist with the rest of the case (since we are having difficulties agreeing on most issues). I am also trying to get my husband to agree to meet with a mediator, but I don’t know in what order to do this?
I have had a consultation with a lawyer but not agreed to his services yet. Should I go ahead with the lawyer, and then hope my husband can agree to meeting with the mediator along the way? Or, should I try to convince him to meet with the mediator first and if things don’t work out well in mediation then instead go with a lawyer at that point? Can a mediator help us both file all the rest of our documents? Thank you!
I would go with the lawyer, who can assist you even when going through the mediation process. If the husband agrees to mediation, then be it, if not, your lawyer will be ready to proceed.
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There is no need to decide which you should do first. The purpose of a lawyer is to help you explain your rights and to make sure there is an equitable division of the community assets/debts and to protect your separate property issues. As to a mediator, they don't file documents but will help you with trying to bring this divorce to resolution fairly, A good attorney can help the mediation process work and achieve a divorce with efficiency and effectiveness.
It seems likely your plan will require both an attorney and a mediator. Find your attorney first and then allow your attorney to assist you in getting agreement to mediate from your spouse and in finding an acceptable mediator.
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