If I say in court that it was consensual contact that I reached out first A). Could the charges get dropped for the defendant and B). Could I get charged with violating the no contact order and if so what would happen to our child?
If the order is that he not contact you, it is against him. It does not matter that you contacted him first. When he replied that was contact, that violated the order.
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You do not have the right or authority to change the judge's order. Regardless of who started the contact if he talked with, or communicated with you in violation of the judge's order his bond can be revoked. You can not be charged if the order did not apply to you. Usually such orders only apply to the defendant, although one would need to review the order itself.
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