Not sure what your question is. Is this an issue about the abuser trying to rescind the restraining order you got? There is way too much in here that sounds like you are still entangled emotionally. Trying to show them how to behave and that you have the upper hand or something like that. In situations where people get into abusive relationships there is a really complex psychology driving the person to seek out these types of abusive dysfunctional personalities - even though they aren't conscious that they are doing this. It really helps to get some understanding of your own emotional needs and insecurities that may have led you into this relationship and which may also be shaping your thoughts and concerns now. There are lots of books on the dynamics of codependency that may help. Try doing some reading. I know this isn't what you are seeking to hear - but this is a way to gain clarity and focus which will help you set your priorities for any legal battles. http://www.portlandlegalservices.com
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It's not clear from the question what kind of legal case, if any, is involved here. In the absence of a specific legal controversy - that is, one with a case number, on file with the court, with a pending hearing - it doesn't matter who believes who about what.
Another question posted on this board at about the same time as this one leads me to believe that this is about a restraining order hearing; though it's not clear who filed for an order against whom (or even if each of you has filed for one against the other; we call this "dueling FAPAs" in the business). So let me talk about this law, in general terms. We can't possibly evaluate how strong anyone's case is without personally reviewing the evidence.
There are two main kinds of restraining orders under Oregon law: Restraining orders under the Family Abuse Prevention Act; and Stalking Protective Orders.
You can ask the court for a restraining order under the Family Abuse Prevention Act (a "FAPA order") if, within the previous 180 days, you have been physically harmed, threatened with physical harm, or forced to engage in sexual acts against your will. The perpetrator can be any person in your family or any person with whom you've had a sexual relationship in the past two years, or any co-parent of your child. If you've been subjected to such violence by someone who doesn't fit that description, you may instead qualify for a Stalking Protective Order.
You can ask the court for a Stalking Protective Order against any person who has repeatedly (two or more times) had contact with you that made you fear for your safety, or the safety of a family member. That fear must be objectively reasonable, as determined by a judge.
In both cases, the order can only be based on abuse that happened within the past 180 days. Things from years past can lend context to those incidents, but don't count themselves as instances of abuse.
Once the respondent is served with the order, they have the right to request a hearing. This is done by filing a form with the court, within 28 days of being served. The court must schedule a hearing within 14 days of the request, or 7 days if child custody is affected. At this hearing, the person asking for the order (the petitioner) must show that the allegations in the petition are true. But they only must show this by a preponderance of the evidence - a greater than 50% chance.
A restraining order petition is a lawsuit, and entitles both sides to legal discovery and the right to counsel. If you have been subjected to violence or served with a restraining order, you should consult with an attorney immediately.
In practice, these cases tend to be contests in credibility and reasonableness. If you sound hysterical and angry - if you insist that everything the other person is saying is a lie - if you sound like you can't possibly imagine how anyone could see the other person's side of things - you have a much worse chance than if you speak calmly, present your evidence, and let the court make its decision.
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