I would poison them! Not a good thing to do but it was just an idle threat. Wanted to emphasize how distasteful infidelity is to me. Individual is now here and has been abusive. I attempted to make them more sensible so I began to state what people do in relationships, the boundaries they cross and clearly stated I would never cross these boundaries. A boundary that I would not cross is hiring anyone to kill. The abuser twisted this to mean that I intended to do this. A time or two, I lost it and pulled hair/scratched person in the process of trying to get something belonging to me. They abused me to the point of drawing blood. Will I be looked at as the abuser for these minor offenses? Over the years I was left bruised bleeding. I could never have done in kind & survived!Reason for the question is that I believe abuser is going to lie & make themselves out to be the ABUSED. However, they won't have told their lawyer that for 6 years they abused and got away with it! They even laugh saying I lost my opportunity to have them arrested because they now know they can be arrested (Rest. Ord. should have been ordered in Oct, Nov. but I was too afraid!) They will say that I screamed at them using bad lg., pulled their hair and pushed them maybe. They won't admit their abuse & how they state that I deserved it. Respon. is contesting rest. order. A threat to chop me into little pieces will not be taken seriously? Pulling hair and scratching out of some frustration a handful of times will speak to my being the abuser? They can't produce pix of abuse as I presently have. I have never violently attacked them or I would be either dead or an invalid by now. My physical strength and anger are no match to theirs!