An MSC is a mandatory settlement conference. Mandatory only means that you have to go. It does not mean that you have to settle. The only "outcome" of the MSC will be something with which you have expressly agreed. Don't agree to settle if you do not agree with the terms. If you think the lawyer is railroading you, say so and hold your ground. Be polite but firm. If you feel that you are being pushed to do something you don't want to do, ask to take a break.
Representing yourself is very difficult and MSCs are among the most difficult times because of the emotions that run high.
If you can afford it, you should try to hire an attorney.
I am licensed only in California and this response is provided as general information only. It is not intended to be legal advice. Legal advice must be based on the exact facts of the particular situation, and by necessity this forum is not appropriate for discussion of specific, exact facts. Contact a lawyer for more specific advice. My answer to your question on AVVO does not create an attorney-client relationship.
If you are in San Diego Superior Court, and this is a family law MSC, make sure you read the following information sheet which is directed toward self-represented litigants like yourself:
Frank W. Chen is licensed to practice law in the State of California. The information presented here is general in nature and is not intended, nor should be construed, as legal advice. This posting does not create any attorney-client relationship with the author. For specific advice about your particular situation, consult your own attorney.
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