Writing to the judge is not appropriate. It is the kind of behavior that is frowned upon. If you have a complaint about your attorney, there are procedures to file that complaint. Otherwise, you need to terminate the relationship and represent yourself or obtain other counsel. There is nothing a judge can do about a break down in communication between you and your lawyer. There are no court processes to remedy that breakdown nor can the judge just proceed to take action based on a request from you that is not the subject of a properly filed motion.
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