First, contrary to popular myth, you do not need any written separation agreement to establish the one year period for an absolute divorce. Second, isolated incidences of sexual intercourse between you and your spouse does not toll the time period or require you to have to "start all over." That law was changed over a decade ago so that spouses can try and reconcile. The key is: Have you and your spouse resumed the marital relationship (moved everything together again under the same roof)? If that happens, you start all over.
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