I was a mistress to a man for two and a half years and that has recently ended. He gave me three months notice and when I got upset about it, he said that he would still pay me my allowance as previously stated but that I didn't have to see him.
Now he has changed his mind, saying that I still have to see him if I want the rest of the notice period paid (and being quite nasty about it). So is this blackmail?
If he is blackmailing me, obviously, I know I can't exactly do anything about it in my position.
There is one thing I can do though, I know that he has, unusual fantasies about his grandaughter in his country. I have been in touch with a site for parents on this subject and they have advised me to informed the interested parties as fantasy turns to actions so often.I haven't threatened to use the information I have. He has absolutely no idea that I know about it. I see it as my last defense.
There are 2 blackmail hypotheticals here: his demand to "see" you in order to continue the payments he has agreed to make; and your threat to make a report about him about his fantasies. Both of you ought to speak with separate criminal defense attorneys pdq.
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I have never heard of 3 months notice to terminate a mistress. His decision to demand services in exchange for his payments is not blackmail. It is a typical illegal prostitution arrangement. He will pay you if you perform services. The suggestion that you may reveal his fantasies to others could be blackmail if you threaten to do so unless he does what you want. The false rationale that fantasy so often turns to actions is untrue and irrelevant.
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Your arrangement with him is unenforceable in any court of law.
Your concerns about his potential future actions may be worth reporting to someone somewhere.
Seek out additional counsel offline.
Nothing you have said so far constitutes blackmail. In fact, there is no such crime in California as blackmail, however there is a similar crime called extortion. You would be attempting to extort him if you demanded money in exchange for keeping quiet about his granddaughter.
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