Missouri is a no fault divorce state. You do not need to plead a reason for a divorce. Hire a resourceful special prcess server to get him served. If that doesn't work, try service by publication.
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You can get divorced for a good reason, a bad reason, or no reason at all in Missouri. The state basically views it as if someone doesn't want to be married, they shouldn't be forced to stay married regardless of the reason and all that is left is trying to get everyone together to divvy up the stuff and the obligations. Here, it sounds like the "get everyone together" part might be the challenge. There are ways to do this without physically putting papers in his hand, but there are a lot of procedural hoops to jump though that you are really going to need an attorney to navigate.
There is no such thing as a divorce where you do not have to go through the court system. Hire an attorney there are ways of getting people served even if they are trying to avoid service. No one wants to be sued so we often have to have unwilling persons served.
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