he lives in the same town and I noticed that he would stop by just to see what was going on. Except things always walk off with him. it was creating frustration because he wouldn't ask and quite evidently does not return the items. he is 32yro cant keep every thing locked in concrete walls. he controlled his father until a recent illness and when he found out it was terminal and I would automatically become owner, he took everything of value. when he finds out i am gone for a few hours he shimmies the patio door lock open and helps himself to everything.
If you believe your son is a thief and that you are the victim of his criminal activity, then have you considered filing a police report? Or barring him from the property (and following up with trespassing charges if necessary)? As a parent, before pursuing either of those options I would have a conversation and give him an opportunity to return what he's taken and correct himself.
Yes, you can file a police report. Each time he steals something, file another report. The first way to stop him from coming around is to trespass him from your property. You would motion the court for a Restraining Order, making him stay off your property.. Depending on your age, you may have a elder abuse claim you can bring against him. In Oregon, your damages (the value of what he's stolen from you) is tripled if a jury or judge finds against him. Just the filing and serving of the complaint might be enough to keep him away.
First, talk to the police. A good police department will understand your situation and help. They may advise you to change your locks and get a security system. You can put a police report on file for what has happened in the past. They may also intervene and talk to him, apprising him of the repercussions of his actions. The can advise you on how to file for a protective order in civil court. If you get no resolution, you may want to talk to a lawyer about filing for a protective order.
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