Report any alleged misuse of your son's Social Security funds to the SSA immediately. If your son is capable, it would be wise to have him contact the SSA with information as well. It is within their power to switch representative payees without litigation, though they will want to ensure that this request is not motivated by other reasons. For more information visit the Social Security link below.
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It would be best to hire an attorney to deal with the situation and make your case for changing the payee. SS usually looks at the payee situation with a great deal of care when they select the payee and may be reticent to discuss a change of payees with you if they think your request is motivated by anger against your former spouse. With an attorney, he can present your argument in a light which may make them reconsider the payee issue.
The other option is to wait until the payee misuses the funds and then complain.
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You need to contact SSA and request that the payee be changed. You must have a valid reason and must be able to prove it. I suggest that you hire an attorney to do this for you.