I paid for his upkeep during the five years we were together so that he could go to aviation school. Paid absolutely everything, so he had no expenses. He made many promises and based on those promises I took care of him. When he finally broke up with me, I wrote down debts that he owed me for certain things, which came to a total of $55k approx. We had it notarized and he agreed to pay. A few months later, he refused to pay. A year and a half later I had to declare myself in BK. Then he said that he didn't have to pay me because my debt had been dismissed. What he has with me is a moral debt. I owed him that money and took care of him based on promises that he continually made to me. He's now a pilot with a great airline and makes good money. What can I legally do?I meant to say "I loaned" him that money... He wouldn't have been able to get his pilot license and be where he is now without my help. He never had to pay for anything: rent, utilities, his bills, clothes, food, trips, etc. I bought him a car, & I paid the monthly payments, & car insurance. This is a moral issue. It's about integrity. I still have the note that he signed agreeing to pay $600/month until the debt was paid. It shows every amount loaned to him and for what it was. We both signed it in front of the Notary Public.