I had a child with my teenage girlfriend of 2 months. After a year of trying to make it work we split. We both had minimum wage jobs & my ex agreed to accept cash payments from me to help out. I was not making much and gave her what I could and of course I have no proof of any of those cash payments. A few years later I received a letter . (We were not getting along at all anymore) I was in my early twenties & my life had taken a turn for the worse. For the next 9 years I worked on & off. Working a few months at a time and not being able to hold a job. I saw our child occasionally as my ex did not make it easy for me. I was homeless for a few years. I was not able to make my child support payments. I am now working & making my payments but is there anything I can do to reduce my arrears?I do have a relationship with my child and have seen her throughout the years but my ex is very unwilling to allow me to visit her. She says she is willing to but does the opposite. Most recently she took me back to court to raise my child support once she found out I was working again. Then the following year she moved to california. She told me she was moving over the phone and then never told me when she actually moved. My child is already going to be 17 so I decided not to go to the court to fight to get her to stay here. Even though my child and I were growing closer over the past 4 years. I figured my child is old enough to call me now and I didn't want to put my child through all the court stuff. Especially since my ex is very vocal. Now I am trying to figure out if there is a way to reduce my arrears because I was not able to make payments with no job and living on the street. I do not have money for a lawyer so I am trying to figure out if there is something I can do on my own?