there are two ways. one is to have someone else adopt the child. the other is through juvenile court. you do not want to go to juvenile court. is there someone willing to adopt this child with you? if not, there is nothing that can be done.
the dad owes support. he is entitled to spend time with his child. without the adoption, those two continue.
I agree with counsel's answer. I'd just add the fact that the law considers the child's right to be supported and to potentially have a relationship with the other parent--even a minimal one. However, if the father abandons the relationship and fails to take a "reasonable degree of interest" in the child, then an adoption by a stepparent is often the best course--if a stepparent is in the picture at all. The other advice I often give is to choose the mode and manner of communications with the other parent and limit such communications to only those reasonably related to the child's needs. There need not be an face-to-face communication--many of my clients communicate solely by e-mail, text messages, letters--even by way of websites such as "Our Family Wizard"
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The legal parent of a child has both rights and responsibilities. The father can give up his rights but remains obligated in his responsibilities. The only way parental rights can be terminated is by a finding of abuse of neglect in a juvenile court proceeding, or if there is an adoption and another person is stepping in to take the place of the father. Your not wanting to deal with the man simply is not a basis for termination of his rights as a parent.