My husband who is an officer (O-2) has been having an affair with an enlisted person (E-7). I told his supervisor about the cheating but decided not to tell them it was with another servicemember because I did not want to be the reason his military career was ruined (I'm sure he could do that himself). Also, he needs a way to support our young children. We are in the process of a divorce and he told me he might get out of the military. I found out that he is still seeing that same person, who is encouraging him to get a divorce. He has been trying to hide this fact that they are still seeing each other, presumabily because he doesn't want his command to find out. But he has used my children and his need to have "alone time" with them as an excuse and way to see her out of state without me knowing. If my husband gets out of the military and the woman retires or gets out of the military as well, can they still be charged with adultery through the military and have any compensation owed to them taken away? What is the statue of limitations? If my husband is court-martialed, will the civilian courts take that into consideration when deciding custody?
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