I'm with my current girlfriend and she has a child from another man. Now, women can be deceiving just as men can. With that being said, she said she was on birth control while her and her ex were together but somehow she got pregnant anyways. Man didn't want a child, advised to get abortion, she gave birth nonetheless and is a single mother. (with me but legally she's single)
Is there any way to sign a document of some sort as an agreement to have an abortion no matter what if she gets pregnant? Some women lie and say they're on birth control, condoms break, they poke holes in condoms somehow, so on so forth. What ensures me that she is lying with me as well, if she lied to the previous man? I do seriously love her, and trust her to some degree. But I DO NOT want a child, accident or no.
No. No more than I can enter into a contract with you to amputate your hand if you do something with it that I don't agree with. Absolutely not. And you are correct that some women lie about contraceptives or are irresponsible about taking pills at the same time every day and make themselves susceptible to pregnancies. That means the burden is on you. If you do not ever want kids, go get a vasectomy. If you just don't want kids now, make sure your partner is on the same page as you. If you expect an abortion if there is a pregnancy and your sexual partner disagrees, perhaps that's not a safe relationship for you, and you're on notice that every encounter could make you dad. Maybe it's just me, but if I were a guy sleeping with a woman who had already created one unwanted child under suspicious circumstances and I only trusted her to some degree, no amount of love could get me to put my penis inside her if I didn't want her babies.
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No, you can't force someone to get an abortion. You can work out a contract as to how the child will be parented and supported. If you don't work this out yourself, the state will make these decisions for you.
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With regard to committing to an abortion, the answer is a resounding no: no such agreement would be enforceable. It's worth adding that you can't sign any binding agreement that would exempt you from child support in the event of a pregnancy, either.
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