Sounds like it is time for a modification. I would look on this website and hire an attorney to assist you in this matter.
This website is not the place to even attempt to try to address the complex questions that you are asking. Your question "screams" for a modification -- your kids do not feel safe, there are alcohol issues, drug issues & chaos in their household. The only suggestion that I can give is go meet with a tough, smart family law attorney in person as soon as possible & follow their advice.
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I really cannot answer without the whole document. Take your dvorce papers in for a consultation with a family law or divorce lawyer. Your matter is too complex for the Q&A forum.
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If you believe this woman is an alcoholic/drug user and you have some evidence to back you up, you should petition to modify custody/visitation. If your children are in danger of physical violence you can do an emergency petition to change custody/visitation immediately. You need to meet with a family law attorney in your area to determine what kind of case you have and proceed accordingly.
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