I know I need equitable distribution done before my divorce. Should I make a proposal for money or should I file for ED to find out what I can get back? He has not relaeased numbers as to how much was in investments, stock, etc. He has cashed and spent/hidden what was there. He was military, we were married 8 years and will be 10 years as of April and do not have a legal divorce yet. We have 2 children.
In a situation like this, it is definitely worth your time and money to see a divorce attorney in your area for a consult, at minimum. He/she will be able to tell you more about the procedural process and timing of filing for divorce, equitable distribution, and alimony and child custody if applicable.
Equitable distribution is part of the divorce, not a pre-requisite. You either agree or you go to trial. If you are trying to do this yourself you are in trouble. You really need a professional who knows what they are doing to help you. Hire somebody.
Whether you make an offer and settle outside of court or proceed with litigation is up to you, but you should absolutely consult with a local family law attorney to review the financial circumstances and determine what you may be entitled to. He isn't required to voluntarily disclose financial information, but an attorney can make him do so. If you have financial investments somewhere, stock, military retirement, and potentially other assets out there it's definitely worth pursuing.
No attorney can competently answer this question without a detailed discussion of your financial situation. You cannot make a reasoned proposal for money without having any information on which to base the proposal. Hire an attorney.
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