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Is it legal for a 19 year old boy to date a 16 year old ?

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I've started dating a 18 year old boy when i was 16. We begain having intercourse before his 19 birthday. we attended the same highschool if that information means anything. Can he be arrested for having intercourse with i ?What is the legal age to have intercourse without being arrested?

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If you had intercourse when you were under 17, he can get in trouble.

Joseph A. Lo Piccolo, Esq.
Immediate Past President, Criminal Courts Bar Association 11'-12'
Hession Bekoff & Lo Piccolo
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17 is the legal age for consent to sex in New York.

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The other attorneys are correct in that you are still below the age of consent and your boyfriend could be prosecuted. However, for a statutory rape charge, the 2 parties have to be at least 4 years apart. He could however, be prosecuted for sexual misconduct.

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The headline query and the substantive question are not congruent. It is legal for a 19 year old to date a 16 year old [or anyone] [headline]; it is not legal for people under 18 to have intercourse, whether their partner is over or under 18 [substantive]. It might come as a surprise to some in this licentious era, but one can date without having intercourse, which is why the answer to the headline query is yes, but the answer to the substantive question is also yes, even though they pose different curiosities. Yes, he can be arrested and prosecuted. [Uh..., it is "with me," not "with I": if you exercised your gray matter more and your loins less, two problems would be solved!]


In NY the age of consent is 17 years old. The question does not lie in his age as he seems to have been at the age of consent when you started dated. The question is what was your age when you had sexual relations. Were you age 17 at that time.