The internet is a public forum place. I assume her you have posted facts. How did you come by those facts? If you did not obtain those facts in an illegal way then I believe you are not able to be charged with a crime. Further, if you can prove the facts you posted, that proof is an absolute defense to a defamation civil lawsuit brought by your ex boyfriend.
I do not practice in NJ so you should check with a lawyer in your locale.
Good luck to you.
God bless. I am in Chicago and do not practice in your state.
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Generally truth is an absolute defense to civil defamation claims, and you also have a free speech right to say/write what you want on a public internet site. You say you have "most" of the proof on paper, and where you don't, you're on less firm ground in terms of establishing the truth. Besides defamation, you ex could claim that you're invading his privacy or putting him in a false light (these are among the California claims he could bring), but if he voluntarily posted these things on other public websites, he wouldn't have a reasonable expectation of privacy and this light wouldn't be false, it would be accurate. As for going to his employer, he could bring a claim against you for tortiously interfering with his job contract, and intentionally inflicting emotional distress, so even if you're just telling them the truth, you could expose yourself to a claim (under California law).
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