This RO was granted by a Judge even though my ex wife 's petition did not meet the requirements for having one granted. The judge felt since we were going through a bitter divorce, the less contact between us was best. The tragic part is that because of the incompetence of counsel, it was never dropped upon the divorce. I am allowed through stipulation to contact my wife solely through email with respect to our children. This RO affects my kids and my relationship with them. I ask my ex in an email if she would consider dropping this order, some ten years old. We are allowed to be at school events and have come in contact very often at such events. I have never done anything to violate it and as one psychologist that we saw, evidenced that my ex was using as a power and control tool, a baton so to speak and is she put it to friends" to fix my wagon. I just want an amicable peaceful and reconcile relationship between us, for our kids and our families. She wrote back and said discussing it even through a contrite email was a violation of the order. I know I can hire an attorney and have it dropped, but I guess I was appealing in good faith and the spirit of forgiveness and reconciliation. Was my email where I asked if she would consider dropping it, an actual violation of the order?