Relax. This is good news for you. If you asked the court to find your ex-wife in contempt, and the first thing the court commissioner said was: "Hey lady, I am ordering you to go see the public defender." Then I am going to translate that for you: He is in effect saying: "Your ex-husband is right. You are guilty as hell. I am not doing anything on these allegations until you are represented by a lawyer, because I think that when this story is over, you are going to jail, and I do not want you to blame me for taking a legal / procedural wrong turn so that you can later blame me for the fact that you are in jail getting your ass kicked in every day." Do not try to become the enemy of the court commissioner. Focus on your legal adversary, and the court commissioner is not it - your ex-wife is.
I agree with Attorney Neisen's response!
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I concur and truly appreciate Counselor Niesen's translation acumen.
Of course, as always this answer is general in nature, applies only to Illinois law, assumes certain facts omitted from the question and does not take into account any facts specific to any person’s particular circumstances. No attorney/client relation is created hereunder and I highly recommend you seek first the counsel and advice of an experienced contested civil litigator prior to taking any actions relating to this matter, as seemingly insignificant actions may have unintended consequences.
Contempt of court is when someone disobeys a court order wilfully. It is "contempt" directed at the court's authority. Thus, while you may not ask for jail, the court has power to impose a sentence. Therefore the commr was correct to refer to public defender. It is a quasi criminal case. A victim in a criminal case doesnt get to have final say so to the judge in sentencing. Victims can usually give input, but it is up to the judge.