An incident occurred, there were no witnesses other than one of our sons, I reported it, & because they could not reach him by phone, I did not have visible injuries, & we did not want to have my son testify in court, there were no charges filed -- but since there was a history, they recommended that an OOP be put in place. He contested the OOP, & @ that hearing, the commissioner determined that "an act of domestic violence occurred" & upheld the OOP. Now what. The OOP is only good for a year, & history has shown that with continued contact, I get hurt in front of my kids. I only started reporting recently because of fear. IMHO the anger management courses might help him. Do I go back to the police, say the judge proved it occurred [or does DV have diff definitions?]?