Unfortunately, it is difficult to know from your brief narrative whether it is reasonable under the circumstances to expect or demand improvement in your mother's situation. It doesn't sound very nice, but it isn't clear whether it rises to the level of abuse. There are procedures by which you can be appointed guardian of your mother but it sounds like you may be too overwhelmed to accept this responsibility. I recommend you have a brief consultation with an attorney who is familiar with APS, Medicaid and guardianship matters so you can get a good understanding of all the options. Good luck!
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