Non-recourse means that can only foreclose and not sue you. The loan you describe sounds like a recourse loan and they CAN sue you for the unpaid balance. I recommend contacting a local bankruptcy attorney for further help.
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Based on the facts you have presented, you are liable for the second mortgage. Because this was a refinance loan, it does not fit within one of the safe harbors under the anti-deficiency statutes.
Second mortgage is not recourse if it is a purchase money loan. Purchase money loan is a loan taken to buy the property. Here you describe buying the property and later borrowing against it. Yes, they can sue to collect a deficiency. You can either 1) ignore and hope they miss the statute of limitation to sue you 2) attempt to settle for less than what is owed 3) bankruptcy to discharge the debt.
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