First, QDROs (Qualified Domestic Relations Orders) are entered by the court that granted the divorce. The case usually can be reopened to have one entered.
Since you mentioned DFAS, however, it appears that you are dealing with a division of a military retirement. A QDRO is not required to divide a military retirement. This is done in the Final Decree of Divorce.
In order to apply for direct payments, a former spouse must submit a completed Application for Former Spouse Payments from Retired Pay (DD Form 2293), and a copy of the pertinent court order stating the former spouse’s award or awards that has been certified by the clerk of court. A photocopy of the certified order is acceptable. In order to complete the application, the former spouse may have to submit additional documentation for DFAS to determine whether all requirements, such as 10/10 (10 years of marriage coinciding with 10 years of active duty service) or jurisdiction, were met. The application must be sent to Garnishment Operations at the Defense Finance Accounting Service (DFAS). The application may be faxed to 216-522-6960 or 877-622-5930 (toll-free) or sent by regular mail to:
Assistant General Counsel for Garnishment Operations
P.O. Box 998002
Cleveland, OH 44199-8002
If he has retired, and gotten the entire retirement, you can take him to court if he refuses to pay your share to you before the direct payments start.
This response does not create an attorney-client relationship and is intended for general information purposes only.
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