A counter petition does not need to be served via process server, but can be sent via certified mail to you or your attorney if you have one. She did not need to use a process server. Strange that the Judge ruled it as unsuitable as putting it in your hands is just as effective as sending it you through the mail.
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A counter-petition is served according to the Rules of Civil Procedure, see Rule 21a. She can serve you by certiified mail return receipt requested or by fax, or by hand delivery. Ordinarily the service would be on your attorney, if you have one. If not, then it would be on you. Her counter-petition needs a "certificate of service" on it. Are you trying to do this divorce pro se?
I am not intending this to be legal advice, because I don't know the particulars of your situation. Call me if you would like to discuss this or other isues.
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