My ex-husband and I have been in a very long dispute. I went to increase my child support for our son & he started harassing me, then my son (13) refused to go for visits. My ex took me to court for enforcement of orders and on the day of our trial, before the trial started he said he will drop everything if my husband agrees to adopt my son. They needed an immediate answer. I & my husband agreed, I was very upset and did not have time to think. Our lawyers wrote up some papers saying I am to save my child support for 6 months to pay for the adoption. If I do not file for the adoption I am not to receive child support for one year, plus I will be responsible for his attorneys fees. These papers were not signed by a judge.