You really do need the assistance of a lawyer. It is a complicated process to get the petition approved. There is a higher standard to show the marriage is genuine in your case. When you marry a US citizen after you are already in removal proceedings, there is a presumption that you only married her for immigration purposes, and you need to show a lot more evidence. Also, you then need to deal with the court proceedings on top of it. You really will be glad if you get help!
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I agree that it is = very complicated process and it needs a lot of work in order to get the approval for your petition. You need to make sure that you don't mess any important dateline.
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My colleagues are absolutely right - this really does require an attorney. An attorney's job is to be an diligent advocate. Any good attorney will follow up effectively with your friends and family, or find other appropriate documentation to provide to the judge. You probably have a job and a life, and it's hard to keep the legal case at the center of attention. But gathering evidence - even from difficult family members - *is* the job of an attorney. The cost of legal representation may seem expensive, but it will likely be far more financially devastating to lose a deportation case.
Best of luck.
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My Colleagues are correct, you need a good lawyer to guide you through the process and adjust your status properly. The Immigration Judge does not get updates directly from USCIS. A good Lawyer will take care of all the issues you have mentioned.
Please hire an attorney. It is your burden to show the Immigration Court judge (you called him deportation judge) why you merit relief - you must show the judge that your application is in process or is approved. The US Immigration Service that is processing your application is also going to closely scrutinize your case due to the circumstances of your recent marriage.