If I understand your question correctly, you do not live with this women or you have never lived with her at all. From immigration perspective, you did the right thing by informing the USCIS that the marriage is not in good faith and your failure to cooporate and attend USCIS interview is a good indication that the marriage is not in good faith. This would be her problem to overcome and she will have an uphill battle to face with teh USCIS.
As to your criminal question, the restraining order, since you live at a different address and have no contact with her, I recommend, if you do not wish to continue your relationship with her, that you do not communicate with her. If you must meet or communicate with her have a third person present. Also, I will send a letter to the district attorney informing him/her of this fact.
i hope that helps.