The child support part is easy - simply go to your local child support enforcement agency and they will take care of it - in a slow and governmental agency way - but eventually if the father has employment or tax refunds or other assets that can be seized, they will make him pay up.
As to terminating his parental rights, yeah, I don't think so scooter! He has seen the child some - 10 times by your own admission (which means most likely slightly more). If the child is 2 - 3 years old , that's about 3 - 4 times a year, which unfortunately is actually pretty close to what some non-custodial parents get. Other than not paying support (which is not a reason in and of itself to terminate parental rights or withhold visitation), you don't make any other allegations that the father has abandoned the child or is in some way a danger to the child. Judges are very reluctant to terminate parental rights without a compelling showing of significant abandonment and lack of interest in the child and / or that the parent poses some serious danger to the child. I think your only hope of terminating parental rights is for you to file an action for it and try to convince him to agree to it voluntarily - as an incentive you can inform him he won't ever have to pay child support if his rights are terminated! Oh, yeah I forgot to mention to you, you don't get to eat your cake and have it too - if his rights are terminated - you don't gets no child support!
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