As a pro se litigant, you cannot expect special favors or treatment by the judge. He must remain impartial. So, you have to follow the rules of procedure (all of them) and the rules of evidence (all of them).
It appears you did not. Even though you are representing yourself you cannot expect the judge will overlook the motion shortcomings.
If you have difficulty, hire a lawyer. Those trained in these things (just like a doctor doing surgery) will serve you well.
The judge is required by law to protect the due process of both side, not only yours. The calendaring of return dates such that the adversary has the chance to respond is fundamental to our system of justice. A lawyer could help you immensely.
You can probably make the motion again but I don't think you will win it.
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