I am sorry that you ae going through this, most states allow a divorce by publication method or some like kind method to protect you and allow a divorce under these circumstances. Please sit with a local CT attny and he or she will help. take care.
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There is a procedure in Connecticut for dealing with your situation. Most likely you will need service of process by publication, but you have to show that you made an effort to find him. You need to speak to a Connecticut divorce lawyer about how to do this.
Service by publication can be very expensive. After you have done your due dilligence and make application to the court for an order (All costly), you publish the complaint in the newspaper. I have seen newspapers charge upwards of $1500 or more. Better to hire a search company to find him. You'd be amazed at what they can come up with and at a fair price. Personal service will help you in enforcing any orders in the future and greatly reducing the possibility of his appeal for defective service. Good luck
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