The rules of evidence would allow the court to consider statements made by either party to each other in a family law action, even those made in text or email form. These would be considered an exception to the hearsay rule and can come into evidence as a statement of a party opponent or an admission. As long as you can prove or authenticate that your ex sent these statements, then YES, they can be used against him. However, only a seasoned family law litigator will be able to guide you through these rules and effectively represent you in court.
Statements under the influence of disease -- and alcoholism is not always given the disease treatment by the law -- are not given a free pass from the laws or exempt from legal actions. Just one of many manifestations that alcoholism both is and isn't a "disease" in our culture.
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Yes, the statements made while drunk/intoxicated can be used against the person who said them. They probably will no be entirely excluded based upon the fact that the person was drunk or under the influence. The other party can try to mitigate how much weight the court attributes to those statements by explaining he/she was drunk, but in most cases that argument will probably not be successful. My colleague Mr. Wishart brings up many good points about what it will take to get this sort of evidence admitted and he is correct that you will need a seasoned family law litigator to assist you with this.
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They may not believe the threats are real, but then again, if you are out of control due to substance abuse and make threats, there is a possibility that when out of control you might carry them out. Even if characterized as drunk ramblings, the fact that you have such health issues can affect the court's decision on issues, especially custody/visitation.
It will definitely become an issue on custody and visitation if you have minor children
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