There are many reasons why I don't want to be intimate with him, and I want a divorce, however, I am not financially able to. The reasons for wanting a divorce and not wanting anything to do with him are because he has put me down multiple times, many times in front of our kids. He told a few years back my vagina was too big and that's why he was unable to satisfy me. When I bursted into tears he told me that's not what he meant, it came out wrong, but what he meant was that he "couldn't hit it in the right spot."
This doesn't sound like domestic violence or harassment. Harassment has some very specific requirements. If you told him to stop contacting you generally, and he still was at inconvenient hours, or making threats etc., that would be one thing. I'm sorry you are having issues with him, but this sounds more like a family dispute. I highly suggest that you contact your counties bar association to see about help getting a divorce. There are numerous agencies that are willing to help single mothers as well. You say you can't afford it but that is what alimony and child support are also there to help with. Good luck!
Might be harassment but doesn’t sound like it. Each case is different. Meet with a local attorney to discuss all of the facts of your case.
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I agree it does not, as you described it, sound like harassment. An person is guilty of harassment if they have the purpose to harass another, and they make a communication anonymously, at extremely inconvenient hours (like, late at night) or use offensively coarse language or communicate in any other manner likely to cause annoyance or alarm. A person could also be found guilty of Harassment if they subject another to striking, kicking, shoving, or other offensive touching, or they threaten to do so. If a person engages in any conduct which is alarming, or repeats conduct in a way which has the intent to seriously annoy or alarm an individual, they may also be found guilty of Harassment.
If you want a divorce, there may be ways you can afford to be divorced, I would get a consultation from an experienced family law attorney who can review your specific facts and provide advice to you. Good luck.
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If you want it to stop ask him to or divorce him.
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The leading case on harassment is State v. Hoffman.
Essentially, if your husband is doing this with a "purpose to harass" then yes, it is harassment.
I concur with most of the attorneys in that the matter is fact sensitive, however, none of us know YOUR sensibilities. Domestic violence is very serious, and if you believe you are a victim, consult an attorney.
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