The status of your relationship makes no difference. The State will not respect your "stand by you man" and will have a expert to testify this is a typical response from a battered woman. It will, in fact, impress them that you are in more danger because you are not admitting his has a problem.
You may file to remove the protective order, but the judge does not have to agree. Your better way to help him is to cooperate with his lawyer.
Your marriage status has no bearing on the case. You need to work with his defense attorney to help clear up the charges. With your help, the case may be reduced to a misdemeanor assault. He needs to be taking batterer's intervention classes. It may have been a misdemeanor this time, but abuse often escalates. You and he both need to take his improper behavior very seriously.
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