No. And you are technically violating the order by having contact.
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Absolutely not and you can be charged with violating the order. I wouldn't suggest you mention it at all and I would suggest you stop taking those calls. Discuss this with your attorney.
The restraining order does not become void. Contact by the other parent is not prohibited. Based on the facts given in your question, I do not believe that you are in violation of the no contact order with the other parent, since you did not initiate the call. Same would apply if the other parent came to your home with the child. You are not obligated to immediately leave your home in fear of violating the stay-away order.
Depending on what custody orders are being sought, I do believe that you should tell the court about the phone calls, since that may alert the Court to the other parent’s willingness to allow phone contact with your child. However, you should not talk with your child until the Court specifically allows such contact.