The father of my child has not been around for my son. He has not been to any appointments and hasn't bought a thing for my son. He has a child with another woman who gave birth 2 weeks after I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. He got back with her an has said he would have her beat me up knowing I'm pregnant with his son and the other woman's cousin texted me and threatened to kill my son and her and the other women made posts and laughed about it. He is just disrespectful and rude every time we talk and I just want full custody and don't want to deal with him or her and want to make sure my sons safe since she is with him. If he doesn't sign the birth certificate do I still need to go to court? Also, he told me he doesn't believe my son is his now so he will not be there to sign the birth certificate. I'm from Oklahoma if that makes it easier.
If you don't want to be threatened and harassed the best option may be to have a Decree of Paternity that not only gives you custody but puts an end to the issue of whether he is biologically dad or not; establishes his support obligation, responsibility to contribute to the cost of health insurance and to uninsured medical and childcare. Any visitation can be limited and subject to him meeting certain conditions. If you don't want him to have any role at all, the only option would be to be married, and to do a step-parent adoption. If you receive threats from the father of your child, or from others on his behalf, getting a victim protective order may be appropriate.
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You can open a case with Child Support Services to establish paternity (including genetic testing to prove if he is/is not the father) and set child support. Once you have the paternity order, you can use that to seek an order giving you sole custody and giving him limited rights to visitation, particularly if he (or someone on his behalf) is making threats against you.
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