We have a mortgage in both names. Most bills are in my name. We have a 16 year old. Initially it would not be a legal separation, but I could use advise on that matter.
I think you will be better served by having a consultation with a local matrimonial lawyer. Relying on a few answers you may get online from lawyers who cannot know your situation in detail is a mistake.
I am a former federal and State prosecutor and have been handling criminal defense and personal injury cases for over 18 years. The above answer, and any follow up comments or emails, is for informational purposes only and not meant as legal advice.
I understand going online with a huge question is the cheaper alternative, but you will not get accurate answers.
For example, public opinion is that mom gets custody and you get another bill. However, your facts may be very different. Mom may be on an abuse registry or the teenager may demand to reside with you.
The same fact-specific variability exists in the next area touched by divorce: finances. I would not recommend piecing together a divorce plan here online. Do that in a lawyer's office. It costs, but the long term protection is priceless.
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