Ex is bipolar,
Ex has always pursuaded my daughters not to see me.
Ex lies and blames everything she can on me.
It has been going on for 10 years.
My daughter does not want to come at all.
My daughter is 14.
Same thing has happened with oldest and that relationship is non-existant
Have been in and out of court all the time.
Have tried full custody for both girls in past, multiple times.
Want to give my daughter her space for awhile while trying to keep an open door legally.
I currently have joint, 141 days
You will always have parenting time pursuant to a court order, whether you exercise it or not. The court's orders remain in effect until another order, changing terms of the prior order, is entered. However, if you choose to not exercise parenting time for a long period of time, you give the other parent ammunition to counter any attempt to rekindle the relationship. "Oh, he wants nothing to do with our daughter. He hasn't seen her in 6 months, and has not called."
You have joint legal and physical custody, with 141 overnights. By not making an effort to parent your daughter, because you want to give her "space," you will only give the other parent carte blanche to continue to poison the child's mind further. Then she can point out to the child that if you were a good or concerned parent you would see or call her (making you out to be the bad and uncaring parent). By not doing so, it might confirm what she is telling your daughter in your daughter's mind.
While you've been to court numerous, numerous times over the past 10 years, I would continue to pursue the relationship with your daughter, even if it has to go back to court because of the other parent's interference. Maybe family counseling is in order, and hopefully the court will recognize what you are up against. See an experienced family law attorney who may be able to give you further guidance once more facts/background information are discussed. If you have been pursuing the parenting time issue without an attorney, you would be wise to utilize the knowledge and experience of such an attorney.
Neil M. Colman
Mr. Colman is licensed to practice law in Michigan. The response herein is not legal advice and does not create an attorney/client relationship. The response is in the form of legal education and is intended to provide general information about the matter within the question. Oftentimes the question does not include significant and important facts and timelines that, if known, could significantly change the reply and make it unsuitable. Mr. Colman strongly advises the questioner to confer with an attorney in your state in order to ensure proper advice is received.
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