You are doing the right thing, follow the old court order then resepctfully tell the cout why you need the modification and remind the court that you respected their court order while you were waiting your chance to be heard.
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If it's 8 miles, I doubt the Judge will have an issue with it, so long as the father has a car. If he only has public transit, however, and it substantially increases his commute time, the Judge may direct a middle ground for the pick-up/drop-off. In any event, to the degree you have further questions, I encourage you to schedule a follow-up consultation with a NYC Child Custody attorney.
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Unfortunately, no attorney can predict exactly what a judge/magistrate will say or order, but you would be well-served to discuss this situation with a New York domestic relations attorney (if you do not already have one).
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