Unfortunately the judge will decided whether or not he needs to go to jail; it's not up to you. Him getting into anger management classes now might help his attorney to keep him out of jail. If he hasn't do so already, he needs to hire a local criminal defense attorney to assist him with this case. Good luck to you both.
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This is a very common question in domestic violence assault cases. It often happens that the complainant (you) don't want to press charges. Unfortunately, it's not your decision whether to press charges or not. You can't "drop" the case. The case is captioned Commonwealth v. Your Ex-Boyfriend, not You v. Your Ex-Boyfriend. You will be subpoenaed by the District Attorney's Office in Philadelphia to appear in court to testify against your ex-boyfriend and you are required to comply with the subpoena.
However, that does not mean that you can't tell the District Attorney what your wishes for the case are and what you would like to see happen to the case and your ex-boyfriend. They won't necessarily promise that that will be the outcome but being that you're the victim, they may take it into consideration. Two factors that will be important are whether he has a prior record or not and if so, is any of involve domestic violence or other violence.
If you would like to speak to me further about this matter or you need assistance or representation for your ex-boyfriend, please do not hesitate to contact me. Best of luck.
Brian M. Fishman
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