You have no rights to parenting time because you have no parenting plan. If you want parenting time (visitation), you will have to petition the court for a parenting plan. Paying child support is not related to the parenting plan, in that, paying child support does not give you rights to visitation. You need a court order. She is able to dictate when you see the child because you have not pursued your legal rights. You need to do so ASAP!